Marriage can make some people less happy
Three reasons: outside control, psychological constriction, and sexual confinement
Outside control:
o People cannot choose their own terms of marriage and dissolve the marriage themselves- the have to go through state or religion
o Social pressure on women to get married.
o Easier to divorce than once was.
o Women are often pressured to stay married- even in a destructive relationship
o Most people now live together before marriage- less outside control
o Some people don’t like the outside control of public ceremonies- the like to just have a contract to live together and stuff
o Others enjoy the ceremony because of its symbolism.
Psychological constrictions:
o People do not consider marriage contracts as literal commitment
o Though many want to keep the commitment
o Women are more affected by the loss of a larger socioeconomic unit
o Marriage doesn't take away the options of a single person, however it drastically changes them
o Many agree that women are constricted more than men in marriages
o A new type of marriage is emerging, one in which both partners can develop autonomously, without harming the overall bond
o Marriage can be both good or bad, depending on the willingness to cooperate and conform to one another's being
Sexual confinement:
o Marriage is a downfall if you are looking for the sexual aspect
o a lot of people think of marriage as "owning" sexual exclusivity of their spouse.
o Not only is there sexual confinement, but also much jealously and distrust associated with marriage
o So, if you are easily jealous or naturally not trusting, then marriage is discouraged, at least from a sexual aspect
o Should marriages allow affairs?- doing so would fix many of these problems
o People cannot choose their own terms of marriage and dissolve the marriage themselves- the have to go through state or religion
o Social pressure on women to get married.
o Easier to divorce than once was.
o Women are often pressured to stay married- even in a destructive relationship
o Most people now live together before marriage- less outside control
o Some people don’t like the outside control of public ceremonies- the like to just have a contract to live together and stuff
o Others enjoy the ceremony because of its symbolism.
Psychological constrictions:
o People do not consider marriage contracts as literal commitment
o Though many want to keep the commitment
o Women are more affected by the loss of a larger socioeconomic unit
o Marriage doesn't take away the options of a single person, however it drastically changes them
o Many agree that women are constricted more than men in marriages
o A new type of marriage is emerging, one in which both partners can develop autonomously, without harming the overall bond
o Marriage can be both good or bad, depending on the willingness to cooperate and conform to one another's being
Sexual confinement:
o Marriage is a downfall if you are looking for the sexual aspect
o a lot of people think of marriage as "owning" sexual exclusivity of their spouse.
o Not only is there sexual confinement, but also much jealously and distrust associated with marriage
o So, if you are easily jealous or naturally not trusting, then marriage is discouraged, at least from a sexual aspect
o Should marriages allow affairs?- doing so would fix many of these problems